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Posted: Mon Jun 2nd, 2008 10:22 am |
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| That is wonderful news.
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Lderochi
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Posted: Tue Jun 10th, 2008 03:35 pm |
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In at UD. Now the real decision begins. I think he is still very torn up about deciding, and the friend lobbying will probably intensify! 
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Posted: Tue Jun 10th, 2008 03:43 pm |
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Congrats! I was just thinking about him this morning. Now that's the type of choice to have. Here's hoping for sanity during this next decision session (as if the first one weren't hard enough!)
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Posted: Tue Jun 10th, 2008 06:12 pm |
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| lderochi, congratulations to your son, and good luck to him as he makes his decision. No matter which way he decides, he will be making a good choice.
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Lderochi
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Posted: Tue Jun 10th, 2008 11:22 pm |
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He's going to drive me to homicide before long.
I knew he was still torn but it's worse than I thought. Now he's saying that UDel "only" gave him 3 weeks to make up his mind and he just doesn't know whta to do! He was happy but very subdued about the acceptance. I've given up trying to read him. I told him that they were both good schools and it's his decision. Just let me know whether he's driving north or south come August.
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Posted: Wed Jun 11th, 2008 01:49 am |
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Lderochi,
Best advice you could give.
Congratulations!!!
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WestrnMom
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Posted: Wed Jun 11th, 2008 09:21 pm |
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He will make the right decision. He already knows where he wants to be.
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Posted: Thu Jun 12th, 2008 01:18 am |
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congratulations!! How wonderful to have decisions that are great either way!
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Posted: Thu Jun 12th, 2008 09:16 pm |
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| Congrats to your son, lderochi! Tell him to try the old flip a coin or draw a name out of a hat. If he's disappointed he'll know he wants the other one. If he's thrilled, he'll have his school.
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Posted: Thu Jun 12th, 2008 10:08 pm |
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| It also wouldn't be a bad idea for him to take a short trip to each campus. Even though it is summer, walking around and picturing himself in his new/old location might spur the decision along. But, he will make the right choice, because, really, there is no wrong choice here. Let us know as soon as he decides!
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Posted: Fri Jun 13th, 2008 08:45 pm |
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'I knew he was still torn but it's worse than I thought. Now he's saying that UDel "only" gave him 3 weeks to make up his mind and he just doesn't know whta to do! He was happy but very subdued about the acceptance.'
Congratulations to your boy, Lderochi. Best wishes for the decision process. I have no words of advice.
I was reminded of ...be careful of what you wish for.. you just may get it...
It is so much easier when the decision is made for you.
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Lderochi
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Posted: Sat Jun 14th, 2008 03:13 am |
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Limner, I think that the coin flip trick has already kinda happened, he just isn't ready to admit it -- he told my wife that he was kind of hoping that he would get rejected so he wouldn't have to make the decision. Pretty much what mominva said!
Carolyn, he is probably going to attend Delaworld, the UDel orientation for admitted students. We'll see how that goes -- those types of event invariably fire people up. He has visited UDel several times over the years for various activities, but he's never done so in "college visit" mode. Can't see how we'll get him back to Elon this summer, though.
Westrnmom, I think you're absolutely right. He already knows where he wants to be, but he's not ready to admit that he's already made up his mind.
I have a pretty good idea of where this is heading, but I'm keeping my powder dry.
I'll keep ya'll posted, but probably won't have news until July 1, the deadline.
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Posted: Sat Jun 14th, 2008 01:53 pm |
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How has the first (or second) (or third) year turned out for you or your child? D2 just finished her 2nd year at Knox and D1 finished her third year at Grinnell. I have not been on here for a long time (funny how not going through college search / decision reorders priorities!) but this is a great topic. Thanks Carolyn.
Many long-time members may remember D2's struggles during her first trimester at Knox. She was miserable, very homesick (even though Knox is a 3 hour drive or Amtrak ride from home) and decided to withdraw after fall term. On the ride back to Chicago after packing up her room, she said she was having second thoughts about leaving. She called her dean the next day and he happily agreed to tear up her withdrawal paperwork. She was eager to get back and has since thrived. She went to campus early this year and served as an orientation leader for international students (a lot of which consisted of driving them back and forth between campus and the American miracle that is Wal-Mart!) For the second year she has hosted two radio shows and it's fun to be able to hear her streaming over the web. She loves school more each term and is very happy that she chose to attend Knox. She really likes Galesburg and participates in many Knox-sponsored community activities.
- What surprises, if any, have there been about the college you or your child attend? With respect to Grinnell it's astounding how many activities the school provides to the students and the town. Knox, lacking the staggering endowment that Grinnell has, is not really able to match this - but my Knox girl goes to visit her sister at Grinnell when there's someone there she wants to see. D1 during her first year used to kind of complain about living in the middle of the cornfields but she has come to love Iowa and frankly if she chose to become an academic at an Iowa school I would no longer be shocked. At Knox, while there are fraternity houses on campus, the influence of Greek life is downplayed during the admission recruiting process. It's a lot more prevalent than we thought it would be and I AM SHOCKED that my daughter pledged Kappa Kappa Gamma - not a sorority but rather a "Women's Fraternity". Her jury is still out but this group purports to be less about partying and more about promoting character and academics. I have been pleasantly surprised by how strong and supportive the Knox alumni are and see an unexpected set of networking opportunities already available to D2.
- Is there anything you particularly like or dislike about the college you or your child attends? With Grinnell the opportunities that students have from the very first day are great. D1 participated in a summer field school in AZ after her Freshman year and the school underwrote half of the cost. With both schools we see the small size primarily as a plus (although both daughters have at times expressed that with so few students everyone is in everyone else's business.) D1 is double majoring in Anthro and Political Science and there are lots of these professors available - she has had the opportunity to study with them all. D2 is majoring in Art History and minoring in Religious Studies - only 1 FT Art Hx prof and 2 Rel Studies - but the flip side is that the Art Hx prof spends a lot of time with each of the 12 students majoring in Art Hx with the goal of having each publish a catalogue and put together a gallery show prior to graduating (in addition to writing their thesis.) Both schools are very socially aware - during the 2005 winter break 75 Knox students traveled to NOLA to help with Katrina relief - and Grinnell has a lot of students choosing to participate in Peace Corps, Teach for America, and it's own "Grinnell Corps." With the trimester system at Knox, when D2 studies abroad this fall, her study abroad costs will be comparable to a semester meaning that our costs will be higher this year - 2 trimesters plus a semester. On the flip side lots of Knox kids take advantage of the school schedule to do two study abroad programs or do abbreviated off-campus program during the extended winter break.
- What do you wish someone had told you when you were making that final decision that you know now?At this point we are so deep into it that I can't remember. I did appreciate that when D2 had her doubts at Knox, they did not try to talk her into staying. Both daughters are very happy with their schools. A drawback of Knox's trimester schedule is the winter break - it does not coincide very well with most other colleges so D2 gets very little time with local friends. She's home a month before anyone else and has to be back at school immediately after new years. We did not know that this would bother her so much.
- If you had to do it all over again, what would you do differently?For D2, nothing. For D1 I regret that I discouraged her from applying to Stanford. Even though she is incredibly happy at Grinnell, she takes it really hard when she's rejected from something and I didn't think she would be accepted. In hindsight I should have encouraged her to go for it.
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Posted: Sat Jun 14th, 2008 05:43 pm |
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Joan,
I remember your post about your daughter packing up to leave and then having second thoughts. It was great to hear from you and hear that both your kids are doing well.
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Posted: Tue Jun 24th, 2008 01:21 pm |
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After much angst, S has decided to return to Elon in the Fall and is happy with his decision. He's posted it on Facebook, so I guess it's official
Big thank you's to everyone on this board for helping me keep my sanity. At the end of the day, he decided that Elon -- taking into account the things he doesn't like about it -- was still the better overall situation for him. His plans for UDel started becoming so convoluted that it was clear he would never, ever have a "real" college experience there (too complicated to go into).
I also think that being home this Summer *finally* made him see that hanging out with the old gang is fun (and they are a pretty good bunch), but it gets old pretty fast.
So that's it (I hope -- if he puts me through this again next year I'm hanging him by his thumbs). Advice to others who may face similar situations -- give advice only when asked, and keep a respectful distance. Threaten well-meaning family members with a painful death if they try to nag. Trust your kid, it's their experience, not yours (well, mostly theirs) and they will eventually make the right decision for themselves.
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Posted: Tue Jun 24th, 2008 01:27 pm |
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| Congrats on the decision! I'm sure that he'll do fine now that he "owns" his choice. Sage advice from a good father!
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Posted: Tue Jun 24th, 2008 10:26 pm |
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So glad to hear this!
Best wishes that the campus VFD becomes a reality.
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Posted: Wed Jun 25th, 2008 04:09 pm |
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Lderochi, I've been following your saga intently, and now I have to admit that all along I thought it was going to go the other way. My hunch was wrong! I'm glad to hear that the decision has been made. Thanks for letting us know!
CalifCarolyn, glad to hear that your daughter was able to make a comfortable decision, too! Very good news!
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Posted: Wed Jun 25th, 2008 04:16 pm |
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| OK, I'm stumped. mominva, what's a "campus VFD"?
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Posted: Wed Jun 25th, 2008 05:35 pm |
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| Campus VFD ... I'm going to guess campus volunteer fire department, based on clues earlier in this thread.
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